QotD: Reclaiming My Identity

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been there, done that.
completely agree, 'tis much more of a hassle to change it back.

...especially if you are still married when you change it back. good times.

o_O

Ooh - sounds like a story there. Because you felt like getting it back or you were doing a pre-emptive change - or the legal process wasn't moving as quickly as you would have liked?

I'd gladly change mine to Cave for a few years.

months.

weeks.

days.

hours.

Vegas!

I'm lazy, so I'll copy from when I answered last time in this thread
the thread is quite interesting in its own.

ah. interesting topic.
when I married teh SO, I added his last name to mine via hyphen
mariser herlastname - hislastname. after a few years of having the hyphen completely ignored and being referred to as mariser hislastname (occassionally with my own last name treated as a middle name (!?) I decided to drop the
- hislastname and go back to the name on my birth certificate.

allow me to say, it was fun... (not!). I had a woman at the DMV insist that I must have proof of divorce to drop
hislastname... that a woman "belonged" to her husband... among other funny/insane bits. suffice to say that it took a phone call to the county clerk to straighten the mess.

the funniest bit after all these years? to have teh SO referred to as "mr.
herlastname" by folks who have met me first... :rolls eyes:

Ha ha. Yeah, now that you are an owned woman, you need to be identified by your husband. That used to bug my mother back when mail was addressed to "Mrs. Hisfirstname Hislastname."

At this point, I've worked to hard to build up my AmyH 'brand' so to speak. I'm not giving it up if I ever get married again.

I never look at the Mr./Mrs. thing -- if it has his first name on it, it goes in his mail pile. I changed my last name b/c I didn't have a "brand" and his is easier to spell, but I didn't change my first name. Luckily this is the 21st century and I live in California and don't know any society people, so it works.

The BFF's BOTH changed their name when they got married -- they didn't particularly care for either, and hated the combo. So they picked one.

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